Repair & Reattachment Grief Therapy

There shall be no more sorrow, nor crying, nor pain.

Peace in One Day

Grief is the one of the most universal and painful experiences we human beings can go through. In my years as a grief therapist, it has been my honor to accompany people as they have made their way, bit by bit, through this most difficult of journeys. Although I did believe that open-heartedly walking with a bereaved person through their pain is very helpful (and I still do this), I longed for some way to help people short-circuit the worst of the terrible pain, as well as heal more deeply. When I learned about Repair & Reattachment Grief Therapy, I realized this was what I was looking for.

The Repair & Reattachment method cuts through the devastation that losing a loved one can wreak upon people's lives and heals grief at a much more fundamental level than traditional grief therapy. What makes it so powerful is that most people get the perception of a direct experience with the spirit of a loved one who has passed. Some people identify the experience as an actual encounter, and some as a mental event that their brain has conjured up. We cannot prove anything one way or the other, but regardless of the the interpretation, the healing effect is profound.

The process is not a "reading" with a medium, and it is not hypnosis. It is facilitated by a licensed, trained psychotherapist and is a normal, natural event incorporating auditory and visual bilateral stimulation. You are awake and alert throughout the process. The method was originally developed by Dr. Allan Botkin, who named it Induced After Death Communication, and it was a major breakthrough in the area of grief therapy. Rochelle Wright trained with Botkin, added to his process, and called it Repair & Reattachment Grief Therapy.

The majority of people who have a Repair & Reattachment session do experience the feeling or perception of connecting with their loved one. Even in cases where no sense of connection occurs, however, vast relief is still found from the debilitating effects of grief. The process produces positive, uplifting results, regardless of any other factor, including religious beliefs or lack thereof, or the length of time since the loved one has passed. It is, however, helpful to wait a bit after a recent death before having a session. In the interim, I recommend traditional grief therapy with a grief specialist who encourages you to maintain a connection with your loved one in some way, as opposed to 'letting go" of him or her. (See Grief)

A Repair & Reattachment process begins with your telling the whole story of your loved one, both the good and the not-so-good, and all the events leading to his or her passing. Then, through the bilateral stimulation, unresolved "baggage" between you and your loved one gets repaired, and distressing or traumatic memories around the death get resolved. A sense of connection usually follows, very naturally and normally. A session that begins with deep sadness and possibly guilt or anger typically ends with relief, laughter, and a sense of hope. When a person has the strong perception that their loved one is happy, still loves them, and is still with them, the searing pain diminishes, and the person can begin to rebuild their life.

Scheduling, Fees, and other Logistics

The process takes place in a single, very long session that lasts from 3 to 6 hours. The fee is $100 an hour, and a non-refundable $100 deposit is due within 24 hours of scheduling your session, which secures your appointment. The deposit amount is then deducted from the session fee, which is payable at the end of the session. I am not in a position to accept insurance. I will send you an intake form and an informed consent form for you to fill out and bring with you to your session.

Sesssions are held in my office at 715 W Lake St, Ste. 705, Oak Park IL 60301. There is a parking garage behind the building, and the office is close to a green line El stop, CTA bus stop, and a Metra stop. If you are coming from out of town or out of state, there is an inn within easy walking distance of my office, as well as various restaurants.

We can take breaks whenever we need, and we will take a food break, so please bring a nutritious bag meal, and I will provide water and snacks as well. This is a long, wonderful session devoted solely to your healing. You may feel tired after the session, so it's best not to schedule anything for afterward. You will leave feeling greatly relieved and uplifted, and you may want to be quiet and reflective for the remainder of the day. This is a big event for you, so be really supportive and good to yourself in every way possible!